INTP left a civil service job to meet ESFJ

I''m going to write with someone I fell in love with at first sight I met a few months ago.Eventually, I failed to win her love twice. And with a long-term perspective, I designed the environment for her to find me.The fact that she missed the woman she loved due to the lack of career exploration and the subsequent decline in self-esteem... I realized that it was a self-identity problem.Every time...