Submit!?! Oh No, He Ain't the Boss of Me....Is He?

Why do I feel the need to argue about everything with my husband? Why do I feel threatened when being told to do something by anyone? Why do I feel as though I need to win the discussion, turned argument? Why can''t I just sit quiet and agree? I remember one particular argument with my husband years ago. As usual, it started by disagreeing on something so benign, it warranted no further discussing...